Fifty Shades of HK | South China Morning Post

April 2024 · 17 minute read

A blonde British domme based in Hong Kong, Mistress Alice has a penchant for psychological torture and forceful persuasion, on top of a bit of good ol’ fashioned bondage.
www.mistresshongkong.com.

03. Ai of the Tiger

Mistress Ai is a Hong Kong-based Asian mistress who is all about the mind games. Her favorite BDSM activities include teasing, humiliation, roleplaying as a school mistress, spitting and spanking, to mention a few.
www.hk-mistress.com.

 

Swing Low

Ever been curious about “the lifestyle” in Hong Kong? Here’s how to get swinging.

04. Everybody’s Got That Swing

Chairman Chris of Swing and Bang Club is serious about membership: you have to prove that you’re real before being able to gain full access to the site. But after that, you’re in safe hands: SBC has a wide, friendly community of like-minded (mostly Chinese-speaking) sex enthusiasts, and its members are required to take regular blood and STI tests before being allowed to attend parties.
www.swingandbangclub.com (in Chinese Only).

05. Come All Ye Faithful

If your idea of a good time is pulling in plural, club ComeXXX might be your cup of tea. It hosts regular group sex parties, naked meetings, boat trips and BBQs and even some light S&M meetups. Be warned: they take photos and videos occasionally, and the uncensored versions are uploaded to a members-only area. Worried about that kind of thing? Check out sister website www.hongkongsexparty.com, which doesn’t allow any documentation of all the fun.
www.comexxx.com.

06. Get Fettered

Need more BDSM in your life? You’ll want a Fetlife account. It’s essentially Facebook for kinksters, and there’s a strong Hong Kong community which hosts regular “munches”—casual, pressure-free social gatherings where you can learn more about the scene.
fetlife.com.

 

Get the Move

Gyrate like a pro.

07. Hell on High Heels

The Aerial Arts Academy offers dance classes including aerial hoop dancing, pole, silk and burlesque. There’s also a “sassy heels” class, which teaches you how to move, strut and dance in 6-inch stilettos.
16/F, Parkview Commercial Building, 9-11 Shelter St., Causeway Bay, 2375-8088, www.aerialartsacademy.com.

08. Work the Pole

Pole dance like a pro at Pole Paradise Studio. Feeling too shy to writhe in a crowd? The studio can be booked out exclusively. A single class is $290; three classes are $790; while monthly packages, which include 12 classes plus practice, start at $2,000.
10/F, CS Tower, 50-54 Wing Lok St., Sheung Wan, 2543-0198, www.poleparadisestudio.com.

09. Tummy Time

Not only is belly dancing sexy and sensual all on its own—it also happens to involve very little clothing. Get the hang of it with a belly dance class at Oasis Dance Centre. Classes begin at $850.
4/F, Anton Building, 1 Anton St., Wan Chai, 2522-6698, www.oasis-dance-centre.com.

10. Groovy, Baby

Leave your Jersey Turnpike at the door and learn to lap- and chair dance at Groove Dance Fitness Studio’s Sensual Fitness sessions. The hour-long classes cover all the bases, including hip moves, touching and eye contact. Bring heels and hot pants. $300 for a single class; $1,980 for eight classes.
15/F, Workington Tower, 78 Bonham Strand, Sheung Wan, 2833-2805, www.groove-dance2fit.com.

 

Party...Hard

Get your next scandalous party sorted.

11. Dungeons and Dianas

Diana (or Mistress Diana, when she’s roleplaying) has embraced the fetish lifestyle for over a decade in Hong Kong. A self-professed shoe and costume fetishist and “private film” maker/enthusiast, she owns a studio and museum of sorts that is equipped with an office set, party area, sex dungeon (cages and chains and all), Jacuzzi and bedroom. Feel like you need some release? Room rental starts at $2,000 per hour and Diana’s more than happy to guide you along. Make sure to call or email in advance; and it might be helpful to have a Chinese speaker on hand.
Flat E, 3/F, National Court, 240-252 Nathan Rd., Jordan, 9135-5777, www.clubdianahk.com.

12. Passion Project

If you’ve ever felt intimidated at the idea of going into a sex shop, Passionately Yours arranges bespoke “passion parties”—gatherings for you with your girlfriends to explore a wide variety of sex toys in the comfort of your own home. The professional hosts will bring a selection of toys and kinky accessories for you to test out—think taste testing fruit-flavored lube and learning how to use every accessory around. PY also does a specific “50 Shades of Grey” themed party, where alongside introducing the different gear that appears in the books, they’ll also loop in a mini spanking tutorial and a novice bondage lesson.
feelpassionately.com.

13. Strip Tricks

Hen party coming up? Always wanted to see your girlfriends drink champagne out of a dude’s crotch? TysonHK is the longest-running adult entertainment business in the city. These guys can discreetly send over a male or female stripper to your party, where baby oil, whipped cream and champagne are all involved. Remember to slip some lai see into those thongs.
From $3,500 for 30 minutes, tysonhk.com.

14. Stag Dos (and Don’ts)

Stag and hen night gigs can be stressful to organize. If you don’t want to lose your head over the planning process, head over to Hong Kong Stag and peruse the party packages, from private suite affairs to scandalous hen nights to boat charters.
From $2,000 per person, www.hongkongstag.com.

 

Beach, Please

Want to flaunt what god gave ya? Head to these beaches in your posing pouch.

15. Going South

South Bay is the baby brother of Repulse Bay, and perfect if you’re looking for somewhere less crowded. Looking to show off the goods to a gay-friendly crowd? Head to the left side of the sand.
Take Bus 6, 6A, 6X, 66 or 260 from Exchange Square Bus Terminus in Central and get off at Repulse Bay.

16. Lantau Lookin’

You’ll rarely spot nude sunbathers these days on the relatively remote Lower Cheung Sha Beach in Lantau, but it does occasionally happen. Top tip: the most gay-friendly part of the beach is to the left.
From Mui Wo pier, take bus No. 1, 2, 3 or 4 and tell the driver to get off at Lower Cheung Sha Beach.

17. Piggy in the Middle

The small Middle Beach sits between South and Repulse Bays. It’s the most popular gay beach in Hong Kong, attracting both locals and some visitors.
As it’s not directly accessible by public transport, either take a taxi or walk from Repulse Bay.

 

Public Pleasures

We’re not going to tell you what to do in these parks—just that they’re nice and quiet after dark, and that Hong Kong has very warm summers.

18. Chai Wan You So Bad

Chai Wan Park has a ton of features that are good for, um, hide-and-seek. There’s a waterfall, terrace garden, and a lily pond with a pavilion in the middle that just so happens to be shaded by trees.
Tsui Wan St., Chai Wan.

19. Austin Powers

Nice and quiet, Mount Austin on the Peak is just off busy hiking trails. It’s popular during the day, with tons of foot traffic from dog walkers and joggers—but come night time, there’s much less going on. For now.
Mount Austin Rd., The Peak.

20. Let’s Cyber

The grass lawn at the Cyberport Podium is eerily quiet at night, with a great romantic view of the Lamma Channel…
Cyberport Rd., Pok Fu Lam.

21. The Sha Tin Shuffle

Picturesque Sha Tin Park has a fort in which you can duck out of sight, but beware of guards who come by on bicycles. With 19.89 acres of land to roam around in, though, who says they’ll be able to find you?
Open 6:30am-11pm. 2 Yuen Wo Rd., Sha Tin.

22. The Rooftop of Your Building

It’s not like anyone else goes up there, is it?

 

Love Me Short Time

Don’t have any privacy at home, or just want a change of scenery? These hourly accommodations have you covered.

23. Sexcellent Rooms

Right next to a gas station on bustling Hennessy Road, Park Excellent Villa may not have the most discreet of entrances. But once you’re inside, it’s a different story. The maze-like interiors and low-key staff mean you’re unlikely to run into other amorous couples. Rooms are basic: they come with a double bed, and most have an en-suite bathroom. It’s $167 for two hours and a very economical $246 to stay overnight. There’s also a branch in Tsim Sha Tsui.
275 Hennessy Rd., Wan Chai, 2587-9988; Room 24-29, 1/F, Wing Lee Building, 27-33 Kimberley Rd., Tsim Sha Tsui, 2367-7005.

24. Boutique Bouncing

You won’t miss Boutique Hotel among the hordes of hourly accommodations in Kowloon Tong: It’s the one with a bright orange exterior. Some rooms are themed—there’s a jungle-style one featuring a wooden bedframe and tree branches on the wall—but most are stylishly decorated lodgings with huge sunken baths. $430 for three hours.
9 Norfolk Rd., Kowloon Tong, 2338-6223, www.boutiquehotel.com.hk.

25. Essex Girls

Don’t let its benign exteriors fool you. Essex Lodge is equipped with kinky restraints and bathtubs sunk into the ground. It’s just a hop and a skip away from Kowloon Tong station. $282 for three hours.
18-20 Essex Crescent, Kowloon Tong, 2338-1233.

26. Victorian Attitudes

The Hotel Victoria is a popular chain of love hotels with branches across Hong Kong. Like its other locations, the Mong Kok branch has all you’ll need for a successful tryst: clean, white sheets on a comfortable bed.
Rooms cost $230 for two hours. 4-23/F, Victoria Building, 194-196 Portland St., Mong Kok, 2625-9999.

27. Voulez-vous Rendezvous

Renovated in 2008, the cozy Hotel Rendezvous contains just 15 rooms. They’re spacious and comfy and range from modern chic to simple classic styles, but let’s face it: you’re not there to admire the interiors (unless you’re some kind of soft furnishings fetishist). Rooms are $300-330 for two hours, all equipped with TVs and clean bathrooms.
1/F, Union Mansion, 33 Chatham Rd. South, Tsim Sha Tsui, 2368-1189, www.gr-hotel.com.

28. Mingle Your Bodies

Perhaps the most famous of them all, Mingle Place at the Eden is a stone’s throw away from LKF. Alongside big beds and fluffy white pillows are spacious bathrooms. Rooms start at $340 for two hours and $900 per night. Go baller at one of the super VIP suites, featuring round beds with mirrors on the ceiling and a Jacuzzi, available for two hours ($940-990), or $2,800-3,400 for a whole day. The walls are soundproof and the service is friendly—no judgmental stares when you stumble in at 4am.
148 Wellington St., Central, 2850-6289, www.mingleplace.com.

Linger Longer

You can’t exactly wear a tracksuit in a sex dungeon. Spice things up with some lace or less.

29. Go Sheer

There are over a dozen different lingerie brands available at Sheer, including Hanky Panky and The Little Bra Company.
4/F, W Place, 52 Wyndham St., Central, 2147-3887, www.sheer.com.hk.

30. Posh Knickers

Go for a touch of class at Rigby & Peller. The posh London-based label is renowned for its luxurious lacy numbers as well as its lingerie styling service.
Various locations including Shop 310, The Landmark, 15 Queen’s Rd. Central, 2877-5655, www.rigbyandpeller.com.

31. It’s Showtime

For a little fun spicing up your love life, visit Showtime Lingerie. Home to a little of everything, this sexy shop offers beautiful lacy bras, adults toys, games, accessories and DVDs—everything you need for a saucy night in.
2/F, Shama Place, 30 Hollywood Rd., Central, 2530-3309, www.showtimelingerie.com.

 

Category III Films

Our favorite top category III films, in no particular order.

32. Viva Erotica (1996)

This Cat III sex comedy classic stars the late Leslie Cheung as an unsuccessful film director who takes on a project to film a blue movie featuring Shu Qi and Karen Mok for some quick cash—but he begins to question himself for compromising his art. While it’s rated Category III for its rampant sex scenes (duh), the film’s considered a masterpiece of ironic artfulness.

33. Sex and Zen (1991)

Loosely based on a 17th century erotic novel “The Carnal Prayer Mat,” this phenomenally successful smutty flick is about a sex-addicted scholar who replaces his own penis with a horse’s member in order to sex up a whole throe of mistresses. Spoiler: it doesn’t end well for him.

34. Due West: Our Sex Journey (2012)

This raunchy tale of sex tourism in Dongguan originated as posts on the HK Golden Forums and tells of a group of Hong Kong lads taking a sex trip to the mainland—with plenty of humor and cynicism thrown in.

35. Naked Killer (1992)

In this Wong Jing cult classic, Chingmy Yau plays a semi-vigilante who stabs rapists in the groin—and Simon Yam is the policeman hot on her trail. Soon she’s being trained to become a professional assassin—AND getting hit on by her lesbian rival.

36. Lust, Caution (2007)

Ang Lee’s WWII period flick stars Tony Leung Chiu-wai as a Chinese politician in Shanghai and Tang Wei as a rebel sent to seduce him. Super-steamy nudity, male and female alike, made the film infamous.

Accsexories

Sex feels good… technology can make it feel better.

37. Guys for Dolls

If you’re looking for to turn up the heat, look no further than Loveshop. There are sex toys and devices of all kinds, and you can even order an ultra realistic silicone sex doll from Japan for $88,000. Can’t bear to wait? Order online before 4:30pm for next-day delivery.
25A Granville Rd., Tsim Sha Tsui, 3583-2029, www.loveshop.hk.

38. Pink Pussies

Pink Pussy Cat is one of the better known sex shops in town, with a vast range of costumes and accessories. Beyond all the usual products like lubricants and dildos, you’ll find kinky lace-up platform boots, corsets and school-uniform-inspired skirts.
Various locations including M/F, 3 Lan Kwai Fong, Central, 2522-0618, www.pinkpussycat.com.hk.

39. Sally Forth

Sex shop Sally’s Toy was founded on three principles: safety, quality and pleasure. The store has a broad list of goodies and delivery options include courier and registered post, or you can chose to pick up your product at an appointed 7-Eleven, MTR station or at the showroom itself, Sally Coco in Central.
Shop 302, 3/F, Winning House, 10-16 Cochrane St., Central, 3175-7408, www.sallystoy.com.

40. You Know You Wanta

One of the biggest adult toy stores in Hong Kong, Wanta offers a range of costumes, sexual accessories and sensual toys both in-store and online. There are Lolita dresses and school uniforms, plus nurse and hostess uniforms, massage oil candles and uber-thin JEX 0.02 condoms. Free delivery service for orders over $200.
2/F, 28 Russell St., Causeway Bay, 2449-4128, www.wanta.net.

41. A New Sexsation

G Sexsation has a huge range of toys, from vibrators to Fleshlights to more risqué S&M equipment. You’ll also find big ticket items such as blow-up dolls complete with sound effects. Japanese culture fans will love this shop’s costume selection, which includes kimonos and school uniforms. The website is in Chinese only—but there are plenty of photos.
Shop 61, Ho Shun Tai Building, Sai Ching St., Yuen Long, 2944-0699, www.g-sexsation.com.

42. Johnny B. Goode

Sampson Condom Store sells exactly what you’d guess. There’s a wide range of flavors, colors and brands and even an “extra-safe” section of extra-thick condoms. Order online before 5pm and you can shake your thang the very next day.
Unit 2002, Fee Tat Commercial Centre, 613 Nathan Rd., Mong Kok, 2329-0345, www.sampsonstore.com.

43. Mister Loewie Loewie

German brand Loewie stocks a substantial range of stylish sex toys and bedroom accessories—including the dubiously named “Eros Ultra-X Fisting Gel.”
20/F, Central Tower, 28 Queen’s Rd., Central, 8191-0306, www.loewie.com.

44. Cyber Sex

Prefer shopping online? HK Sex Toys has a range of toys from Japan and Korea, plus thongs and racy underwear. For the more adventurous there are masks, wrist cuffs, whips and ball gags.
www.hksextoys.com.

45. Ride ‘Em Cowboy

Instead of paying an arm and a leg for a whip from a sex shop, get a proper one from reputable horse riding gear shop Bits & Boots Saddlery Co. instead. Whips and riding crops range from $100-350. Hope you know what you’re doing with them.
Room 1721B, 17/F, Star House, 3 Salisbury Rd., Tsim Sha Tsui, www.bnbsaddlery.com.hk.

46. Old-School Spanking

Get creative with your whipping: High Point Co is an online furniture store offering bamboo and rattan canes. Sexy…
www.rattancane.com.

 

47. Cantonese Sex Slang

Da fei gei (打飛機), “Hitting the airplane”

Male masturbation.

Jut deep (摔碟), “Disk-scratching”

Think of the DJ maneuver: it means female masturbation.

Chung chut zik fei (中出即飛), “Hit, pull out and immediately fly”

Like the phrase “pump and dump.”

Bok yeh (扑野), “Hitting stuff”

Straight up doing the dirty.

Ack har tiu (呃蝦條), “Tricking someone for prawn chips”

Har tiu, or prawn chips, sounds a lot like hai (c**t) and diu (fuck). This term means “tricking a girl in order to have sex with her.” Classy.

Che zun (車震), “Shaking the car”

Any sexual activity that takes place inside a vehicle.

 

Sexy Swipes

An app a day keeps the sexy doctors at play.

48. Getting Scruffy

Move along, Grindr. Scruff is the sophisticated cousin to the gay hookup app. Nudity in photos is prohibited (no dickpics!), and you can search for the type of man you’re looking for, from bears to twinks.
www.scruff.com. iTunes and Google Play.

49. Swipe right (twice)

3nder (that’s “threender” to you) takes the awkwardness out of setting up a threesome or an orgy. Just like Tinder, you can swipe though potential fuckbuddies, but you can also search for up to four couples or five singles at the same time: now that’s a party.
iTunes.

50. Affairs of the Crotch

Ashley Madison’s slogan “Life is short. Have an affair” sums things up. The controversial app connects those looking for something scandalous.
www.ashleymadison.com, iTunes or Google Play.

 

Swap Shop

Chris, the Chairman of Swinger forum Swing and Bang Club, shares a few juicy details:

HK Magazine: What’s different about S&B?
Chris: We’re probably the strictest swingers’ club in Hong Kong, and I’d say even internationally. But in terms of hosting sex parties, we are at the “baby level”—they’re never too extreme.

HK: What’s strict about it?
C: People have to take a blood test every six months. We also check carefully that people who take part have never solicited sex workers, because their attitudes and aims are very different.

HK: How many people normally attend a party?
C: Usually around 10. I’ve tried 50 before.

HK: Where do they usually take place?
C: Personal venues, sometimes hotels, luxury properties. Sometimes we rent out bars.

HK: Is it a place for people to meet each other?
C: Relationships between participants are not allowed. If people wanted to go on dates they’d just use dating apps or go to bars.

HK: Hongkongers are known for being conservative or shy when it comes to sex. Do you think this is true?
C: I’ll say this: your family is the main course. Here we’re the side dish. Many people who have been married for three to seven years usually lose interest in sex with each other, or have grown tired of each other’s bodies. Sometimes there’s a lot of unspoken pressure at home, but because they’ve grown so accustomed to each other’s habits they can’t discuss their problems anymore—this is an Asian thing.

HK: Do your friends and family know that you swing?
C: My friends, yes. Even my pseudonym “Chris” has become what they call me in real life. But family, no. There’s no reason for them to know these things.

Visit swingandbangclub.com (in Chinese Only) for more info.

 

Cause for Concern

These groups are doing great things for sexual health and human rights in the SAR.

Ziteng

This long-established Hong Kong NGO advocates for the rights of women, actively helping sex workers find respect and achieve equality in both work and society.
www.ziteng.org.hk.

AIDS Concern

Hong Kong’s first AIDS concern group began in 1990, and continues to raise awareness and prevent the spread of AIDS, alleviate the quality of life for those suffering from the illness, and to create a trusting, stigma-free community. Aside from providing testing, the group also holds events to raise awareness.
aidsconcern.org.hk.

 

Get Checked

Sex is dirty—but it’s only fun when it’s clean.

Social Hygiene Clinics

The Department of Health runs seven Social Hygiene Clinics, which offer free STD testing for HKID holders. Results are only available four weeks after testing, and you must receive them in person.
Various locations including 6-7/F, Tang Chi Ngong Specialist Clinic, 284 Queen’s Rd. East, Wan Chai, 3103-2400.

Neo-Health Care

The private Neo-Health Care offers sexual health screenings from $400, and each STD test is charged individually. Results are available in two to three working days, and you can receive them over the phone.
29/F, Li Dong Building, 9 Li Yuen St. East, Central, 3160-4886.

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